Ever since I was a little girl right up until the age of 18 I thought naively that everyone found their soul mate. This isn’t really my fault though, my parents met when they were 16 and have been together ever since, so naturally I thought this would happen to everyone. It is a lovely thought that everyone in the world would find his or her soul mate, maybe not straight away but eventually.
Tragically this allusion was broken when I went on a family holiday when I was 18 and met an older women who did her best to look after herself, she had a nice tan and makeup tattooed on. I remember her telling me she holidayed alone because she had nobody and how she hoped and wished she had found her soul mate. It was right then that I thought this could be me. I never really thought that I would never fall in love. After that holiday my perception completely changed, I no longer thought that I would definitely find someone but rather that I never would. At 18 I still hadn’t had a serious relationship so in my teenage mind it must mean I never would. But little did I know I was wrong and in fact I already knew my soul mate, it just wasn’t our time back then.
I met my jigsaw piece when I was 6 years old, I had moved house and to another school. We were only children back then but we were inseparable. I remember spending hours playing kiss chase in the playground, going on play dates to the cinema and going round each others houses at weekends. I had my first kiss with him when we were on a school trip in Scarborough in year 6. He had knocked on my bedroom door (I was sharing with a group of girls) on the evening of my birthday. I answered and stepped into the corridor embarrassingly with no top on although back then it didn’t matter. That’s when we shared our first kiss together. It was something that we both remember and treasure and will always treasure. We shared our first kiss and we will share our last.
Unfortunately we went to separate secondary school and lost contact from year 8 to 12 (school years). Aidan went to boarding school in Somerset (he got a Somerset accent, which at the time was amusing) and ended up becoming boyfriend to my best friend at the time Megan. Their parents lived on the same street and one summer when he was back they met and started dating. I always wonder what would have happened if it was me he was dating back then. Would we still be together now? I’m a strong believer that everything happens for a reason, if we had gotten together then I probably wouldn’t have had my son Harry. That’s a future I would never want. Anyway back to Megan… She gushed about having a boyfriend and couldn’t wait to introduce me to him, little did she know I already knew him. It was like we had never been apart, we became best friends again and that strong connection was still there. (I would like to point out here that although we had a connection we never got together romantically) I was to find out later on in life that my best friend also saw this connection I had with her boyfriend. It maybe the reason we didn’t stay best friends. But from that moment on we were forever in each other’s lives.
Our lives took different paths again. I went to university in Lincoln and studied media production, which is were I fell pregnant with my son Harry. Aidan took another direction and went into the marines and had a long-term relationship. But no matter where life had taken us we still stayed in contact. When I had moved back home and had my son, Aidan would visit me on leave. The visits stopped after a while. Aidan went abroad for a year with work but it was then surprisingly that our bond got stronger. There wasn’t a day that went by that we didn’t message each other. I longed for the ping of my phone to let me know I had an email. I couldn’t wait for him to be back home and see him in person. It was wrong for us to talk the way we did. Aidan still had a girlfriend but we couldn’t help the way we felt about each other, it was an impossible situation (again we were never romantically involved until they separated).
As I said Aidan and his girlfriend did separate. It didn’t end as smoothly as we had hoped but I guess many relationships don’t. We gave it time before we announced we were together out of respect to his ex. I was over the moon that we were finally together. I felt ashamed at first that I was so happy knowing someone was hurting because of me but Aidan assured me that their relationship was over a long time ago. All I wanted to concentrate on was the positive remarks from family and friends, the type that make you realise how lucky you are that you have so many people supporting you. I know that I am so lucky to have found someone that loves me for all my quirks and annoying habits. It’s a lovely feeling when you first realize that you love someone. It didn’t take me long to know that I loved Aidan. I knew it before we got together, every time we said goodbye there was a longing to kiss him. I’ll never forget our first kiss after being together and how intense it was, every kiss after has been the same.
I hope this is more of a love story than me just boasting about how happy and in love I am. Things are always a bit more complicated that what they seem. As I have previously said Aidan is in the marines so we have to spend a lot of time apart, which is difficult and seeing Harry, who has fallen in love with Aidan too, looking for him when he’s gone is upsetting to see. But this is a topic for another time as it’s one that needs more than a few words.
I still like to think that everyone will be so lucky as to find their other half. Don’t get me wrong many people like to be alone and for a large part of my life I was like that. We all deserve a chance to be happy. I have found mine with Aidan and Harry and hopefully in the future I will be able to tell my children about how we got together and keep the idolism of love alive like my parents did for me.